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When Your Husband Comes Out as Bisexual: Our Journey Through Fear, Honesty, and Lasting Love
What happens when your husband tells you he’s bisexual? For many straight partners who find themselves in that situation, it’s a moment filled with confusion, fear, and uncertainty. However, I found that this discovery also held the potential for deeper love and understanding. This is our story of navigating a mixed-orientation marriage, learning how to rebuild trust, and discovering that honesty can strengthen a relationship more than anything else. Discovering My Husband’s
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The Story of Us: Love, Life, and Creating a Path Forward
On October 9, 1966, our high school marching band was invited to perform the halftime show at the Oakland Raiders/Miami Dolphins football game in the new Oakland Coliseum. Our band practiced for many weeks to put on a great show. My squad would always barely miss a collision with another squad of similar instruments. I was playing a baritone horn. I wasn’t very good because my primary instrument was the violin. There was this cute guy also playing baritone in the other squad.
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We’ve Made it Out the Other Side
My wife and I just celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary. I am 56 years old and identify as bi and demi. My wife identifies as straight. We are happy in our monogamous Mixed Orientation Marriage.   I grew up in the Dallas/Fort Worth suburbs. By nature, I was an introverted STEM kid who was pretty terrible at sports, but I excelled at school. I was a teenager in the 1980s during the height of the AIDS epidemic. I always dated girls, but I couldn’t understand why guys also
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The Importance of Real Stories
When I started this journey around 18 years ago, I tried so hard to find positive examples of mixed-orientation relationships. All I wanted was to know that we could make it, that we could come out on the other side okay. I wanted to see others loving each other through it, even if the relationship ended. I wanted to see kindness and empathy. I didn't find a lot of that, and it truly affected me in negative ways. Support groups, with all the benefits they offer, still bring
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